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With the birth of a child, a parent also takes birth. While parenthood is an evolutionary journey and one learns at each step of being a parent, there might be times when parents feel like they need someone to handhold them. In my experience as a child and adolescent psychologist, I have realised that one such point where parents often find themselves in a dilemma is when their children enter teenage and begin to demand autonomy to explore the world and people in their own way.
This demand for greater autonomy often includes, or is accompanied by the desire to experience romantic relationships, which parents may or may not be easily able to come to terms with. In fact, a lot of times I have seen that parents feel that their child is old enough to behave maturely and take responsibilities, but too young to start dating.
It is true that with the advent of technology, the dynamics of dating and relationships have changed. Teens nowadays stay connected with each other 24 x 7, and there are a variety of online platforms for them to stay abreast with each other’s worlds. However, the general wish or drive towards exploration is the same as it has always been. This can make it even more challenging for the parents to figure out how they should go about talking to their teens about the latter’s romantic lives, and educating them about physical and emotional safety. Also, it might sometimes be uncomfortable for parents to talk to their children about the latter’s love life, mainly because it has not been a common practice in our cultural setup. However, being prepared may help them feel more confident, and initiate such conversations well.
First of all, all those parents who feel hesitant need to breathe, and introspect on what is causing them discomfort while considering talking to their child about the latter’s love life. Many a time, our own preconceived notions and already set beliefs come in the way and influence our thinking. If you feel it is not the right time or the child is too young for this, this belief may definitely hinder a potential discussion. We teach our teenage children academics, etiquette, help them in setting goals, and much more, but rarely prioritise guiding them about how to handle attractions and romantic relationships.
It is important to know why this kind of engagement is required from a parent’s end. Romantic relationships might put a teenager through a variety of social and emotional experiences, including turmoil, and these feelings have the capacity to form your child’s understanding of concepts such as care, concern, sharing, adaptation, compromise, and love, which further may influence the quality of intimate relationships they form in the future, and also how they experiment with boundaries. One thing I would like to clarify here is that it is not a mandate for every teenager to be in a relationship. A teen may have no love interest but other priorities, such as academics, sports, hobbies, and so on.
When it is encouraged in the family to talk about feelings, friendships, and relationships, it can help children/teenagers feel confident to talk about their relationships and other related experiences to their parents. Such conversations may also serve as a base for parents to educate their kids with the essential, age-appropriate values, such as saying ‘NO’ when not feeling comfortable, respecting others’ boundaries, not giving or receiving toxicity, balancing academics, career, hobbies, and relationships, and so on. However, when planning to speak to your child about such sensitive matters, make sure you create an environment that is free of any kind of judgement, critical evaluation, or character shaming. It’s important to understand that your teenager would come up to you and share their private matters without hesitating only if they feel safe and secure.
There is no doubt about the fact that direct and face-to-face conversations can be tricky, intimate, and quite intimidating for your child, especially if you bombard them with questions one after another. Remember, they can very well gauge their parents’ level of anxiety, and perception about romantic relationships too. The interaction should be candid and empathetic, and the kids should not be made to feel like they are being interrogated. Therefore, engage in listening rather than lecturing. While having such conversations with teens, remember to show genuine curiosity, and let your child be the expert of their own experiences and feelings. One tip I would give here is that these discussions are often easier to take up while engaged in an activity such as being out for a walk together, watching a movie together, or doing some household chores together. When you feel that the time is appropriate to initiate such conversations with your child, you may cover some crucial elements like the following.
Parents should ideally be the safest haven for their children. The expectations and needs that children develop towards their parents are likely to evolve as they grow up. As parents, you must make sure that you are there for your children in all possible ways, at all stages of life, while knowing where to draw the line such that you don’t become interfering. It is then likely that your child shall evolve into a secure and fulfilled individual.
Priyanka Bakshi is a child psychologist accredited by the Rehabilitation Council Of India (RCI). She holds extensive experience in helping children, adolescents, and their parents work towards socio-emotional wellness, and heads the Child Guidance And Counselling vertical at Daffodils Therapy Studio, New Delhi.
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